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Writing Wedding Vows

There are a select group of people who are natural-born writers and find it incredibly easy to write down their thoughts. Then, there are the rest of us. For the majority of people, writing does not come easily and writing your wedding vows can prove to be extremely difficult.

In this post, I’ll break it down and make it easy. Use this post as a starting point and a resource to get the creative juices flowing. Before you know it, you’ll have written your wedding vows and you’ll be ready for the big day.

Break It Down

When thinking about how to write your wedding vows, it’s best to not think about the whole thing. Break it down into bite-sized pieces. Focus on one aspect at a time and you won’t get overwhelmed.

This can even be done over several days, if needed. Some people are able to sit and write their wedding vows in a quick 10 minute stretch. Others will need several days to ponder and slowly write. There’s no right or wrong way to do it, as long as it gets done by the ceremony.

What Do You Love Most

The first part of your wedding vows could talk about what you love most about your partner. It could be a physical attribute or a personality trait. This is a great opportunity to remember what made you fall in love with this person to begin with.

You could talk about their smile or how kind they are to those around them. Mention their beautiful eyes and how patient they are when someone else might lose their temper or give up. Do you respect their family values or their dedication to something they love? All these things are great to mention in the opening section of your wedding vows.

What Do You Love To Do Together?

There are probably tons of activities you love to do with your partner. Include some of these things in your vows. You could talk about things you did when you first met or things you hope to continue doing for the rest of your lives.

Think about what you two do on the weekends. Do you love to play board games? Is staying home watching a movie what you love or is rock climbing and sky diving more your thing?

Make this about the two of you, but try not to include inside jokes or references that only the two of you will understand. Your guests will have no idea what you are referring to and can feel lost. If you really want to include an inside joke, just be sure to keep it to a minimum for the sake of your guests.
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Something You Look Forward To

Finally, talk about something you are looking forward to doing or sharing with your partner. It could be a trip you’d like to take or buying your first house together. You might be looking forward to starting a family and having those 12 kids you talked about. Maybe you’re just looking forward to growing old with each other.

Whatever it is, just make sure your partner knows you are thinking about the future and looking forward to spending it with them.


Now that you’ve thought of just 3 aspects of your relationship, you’ve completed your wedding vows! Congratulations! That wasn’t really so hard, was it? I hope not. I hope breaking it down like this made it easy for you and now you have one less thing to worry about on your wedding day.

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